Event
NPC’s Dialogue
Your Answer
Outcome
In the game’s first quest, The End of the Beginning, when you approach Solas, Varric will explain his plan to change Solas’s mind.
Varrick: “Solas needs someone to sell him another option, to help him justify changing his mind.”
This is a mistake.
Harding approves.
While Varric speaks with Solas—without much success—you will decide to stop Solas’s ritual. At this point, both Lace Harding and Neve will offer to join you. Choosing one of them will earn their approval.
Harding: “Either way someone needs to stay back and deal with the demons. “
Harding, with me.
Harding greatly approves.
In the Shadows of Ancient Arlathan quest, after completing the task of speaking with Neve at the Lighthouse, you can optionally talk to Harding. You’ll find her in the Conservatory.
Harding: “There’s so much to do. We have to keep going.”
Are you okay?
Harding approves.
In the Shadows of Ancient Arlathan quest, you’ll discuss the situation at the table with Neve and Lace Harding. Neve will advocate for more investigation, while Harding will push for action.
Harding: “And how many more people will get hurt—get killed—while we spend time investigating?”
Harding’s right.
Harding approves.
Before the Ogre boss fight, if Harding is with you.
Harding: “Right. Because darkspawn, demons, and animated suits of armor aren’t tricky enough.”
Of course it is.
Harding approves.
After defeating the Ogre boss, you will head to the Veil Jumper camp and speak with Irelin.
Irelin: “We could ask it about the gods. Figure out their next move.”
The Dalish are priority.
Harding approves.
In the Shadow’s Crossing main quest, you must decide the Mayor’s fate. Your choice will determine Lace Harding’s approval
Harding: “Rook, you’re a Grey Warden. You could pack him off to Weisshaupt as punishment.” (If you are Grey Warden)
Harding: “Rook?” (Otherwise)
Leave him here.
Harding approves.
At the end of the Shadow’s Crossing main quest, after meeting Morrigan, Bellara will talk about the gods.
Bellara: “Our gods are back. Our gods! And they’re killing people and blighting the world. How do we stand up against that?”
We work together.
Harding approves.
In The Singing Blade main quest, when you first go to Harding to search for Solas’s dagger, she will blame herself.
Harding: “I should’ve taken the shot.”
We all carry blame.
Harding approves.
At the end of The Singing Blade quest, you will talk about Harding’s newly acquired powers.
Harding: “I know it’s strange, but is this going to create problems for us?”
Just make sure to aim.
Harding approves.
In The Enemy of My Enemy quest, before contacting Solas, you can talk to Harding. You will find her alone, reading a sentence from a book.
As the dialogue continues, and she explains the meaning of the word “isatunoll”.
Harding: “They don’t remember. No one remembers. We don’t even know what we lost.”
You’re cute when focused.
Flirting with Harding.
Harding: “I am. We are. This. And that. Here. There. Now. And forever.”
I like that you’re excited.
Harding approves.
Triggers “An Unfamiliar Sense” companion quest.
In “An Unfamiliar Sense” companion quest, you first need to find eluvian in Arlathan Forest. After going to Arlathan Forest and after her unsuccessful attempt at earth-bending magic, followed by her successful use.
Harding: (Sighs)
Wanna talk?
Flirting with Harding.
After completing the “An Unfamiliar Sense” quest, if you talk to Harding at the Lighthouse, she will mention the mysterious voice she heard at the end of the quest. She will then talk about the dwarves living underground.
Harding: “Maybe there are other people down there with magic.”
Will you let me come along?
Flirting with Harding.
At the end of the Shadows of Minrathous quest, Maevaris will introduce herself. If you are from the Shadow Dragons, Rook will recognize her. Choose the “You’re Maevaris Tilani!” dialogue option, then:
Maevaris: “I know you, don’t I? Rook. They told me Varric stole you away for a job.”
You know Varrick?
Harding approves.
After finishing “Completing The Veilguard” quest, once your conversation with Solas ends, you will discuss the events with your entire team. If you saved Treviso:
Neve or Lucanis: “Treviso could have used a dragon hunter. That much is true.”
We couldn’t have known.
Harding approves.
After completing either Where The Dead Must Go or The Dragon Slayer quest, you can have a time-sensitive conversation with Harding about the Inquisition.
Harding: “I spent more time with the ordinary people. The ones you didn’t hear about.”
In the “More” section, ask her all the available questions before selecting “Do you miss the Inquisition?”
Each question in the “More” section will grant approval from Harding.
Harding approves.
After completing Where The Dead Must Go, followed by The Dragon Slayer, you will have a conversation with everyone about recent events.
Bellara: “Feels like we’re at war. A lot of little wars.”
The gods move fast.
Harding approves.
After completing Where The Dead Must Go, Neve or Lucanis will rejoin your group.
Neve: “Yeah, I am.”
Lucanis: “I am.”
Meet… everyone.
Harding approves.
At the beginning of the Shades of the Blight quest, you will speak with Morrigan, who will introduce you to the Inquisitor.
The conversation continues with the Inquisitor speaking.
Harding: “Well, this is Inquisitor. The man/woman who led us all.”
Harding knows everyone.
Harding approves.
Inquisitor: “You’ve put together an impressive team, and you’ve got the best chance—maybe the only chance—to stop Elgar’nan and Ghilan’nain.”
You can count on me.
Harding approves.
In the Lighthouse, when you talk to Harding about her mysterious friend.
After this, in the next dialogue, selecting the More option and talking about Kal-Sharok will earn you additional approval:
Harding: “Orzammar has requested I stop harassing their citizens with my talk of dwarven magic.”
Screw them.
Harding approves.
Harding: “Orzammar can’t help. What have I got to lose?”
Let’s talk about Kal-Sharok.
Harding approves.
Unlocks “The Waiting Stone” companion quest after the conversation.
After completing the Shades of Blight main quest, you will receive Harding’s companion quest, The Waiting Stone.
Once you finish the quest and defeat the boss, Harding will find more questions instead of answers. After your adventure in the Deep Roads ends and you return to her room, you will have the chance to flirt with her.
Harding: “Oh. Hey.”
You’re brooding.
Flirting with Harding.
As the conversation continues, you can flirt with her again, leading her to acknowledge that she now sees you as more than just a friend.
Harding: “I just wish I knew what to do.”
I don’t know, but I’m here.
Flirting with Harding.
At the end of the ‘Something Wrong’ quest, after collecting the samples, the First Warden will arrive.
First Warden: “Your sensitivity to blight is useful, Warden Antoine. But you’ve had more than one snake in your ear.”
Back off.
Harding approves.
In the Siege of Weisshaupt quest, when confronting the Warden.
First Warden: “That’s an order, Warden!”
Let’s be reasonable.
Harding greatly approves.
At the end of the “Fire and Ice” quest, you will return to the Lighthouse and discuss recent events with your team.
Harding: “Arlathan, right? Help the Veil Jumpers?”
Arlathan makes sense.
Harding approves.
After completing the Bloodbath companion quest, you will talk with Harding in her room. At some point in the conversation, she will talk about her dreams. If your flirt count is high and you’ve followed this guide, you can express your romantic interest without creating a commitment, and you can still flirt with other characters.
If your flirt count is low, the dialogues will change, and you should select other flirt options.
Harding: “There’s something that glows red just out of my sight. I know it’s going to get me, but I don’t know how I know.”
Anything I can do to help?
Expresses romantic interest in Harding.
Unlocks “The Bond Rekindled” quest later.
In your next conversation with Harding, you will receive “The Bond Rekindled” companion quest. You can start the quest by talking to her at The Hall of Valor. This quest will romantically commit you to Harding and you will no longer be able to flirt with other characters.
Harding: “It’s drawing me out. Drawing me down.”
I won’t let it take you.
Commits you to an exclusive relationship with Harding.